Pre-Marital Counseling

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed. (From Carl Jung's Modern Man in Search of a Soul, 1933)

When two people consider making a potentially life-long commitment to be together, it is usually because both feel a strong emotional bond between each other.  Typically, this strong emotional feeling brings visions of a life together being "happily ever after" as it is in childhood fairytales.  While we certainly believe that couples can be "happily ever after", it is important to realize that, as with every journey in life, there will be challenges along the way. Some of these challenges will be in making adjustments needed when individuals from two different backgrounds merge and begin taking on the reality of day-to-day life shared with a partner.  Topics such as "who will handle the finances?", "when should we start a family?", "what do I expect from my partner in our relationship?" and many others are seldom discussed prior to marriage. This is why pre-marital or pre-commitment counseling is so very important.  It is an opportunity for couples considering a life-long commitment to get a more realistic view of what life together will actually look like.  As marriage and relationship therapists who have helped many couples resolve some of these issues we can summarily say that pre-marital counseling is significantly beneficial and will pave the way for a smoother road after life together begins.